Weddings are supposed to be flattering, memorable and preferably a smooth process. The operative word being “preferably”. There are often hiccups when it comes on to wedding planning, you may have to look into alternatives at some point, but the best part is, it is happening before the wedding, so you get a chance to fix it.
Your bridesmaid dress may just be one of those hiccups. Your bridesmaid may be of different shapes, sizes, personalities, tastes and preferences. You want them to be a part of your wedding. But, how can you accommodate all of that? Find answers below for some of the most popular asked questions related to bridesmaid dresses.
Question: What do I do if all my bridesmaids are of different shapes and sizes?
Answer: Agree with your dressmaker upon a style that will suit all shapes and sizes. If possible, a style that, with slight modification to suit the individuals, is flattering to everyone.
Question: Do my bridesmaids have to wear identical outfits?
Answer: No they don’t. In fact, having different outfits, but in the same colour, is an ideal way of accommodating the preferences of all your bridesmaids, their different shapes, sizes and personalities.
Do my bridesmaids’ dresses have to be the same colour?
Answer: No. The most famous example of this is Princess Mary and Prince Frederick’s wedding. Her bridesmaids wore similar hues – cerise pink, red and scarlet, the dresses almost identical, but with necklines cut to flatter the individuals.
Who should pay for the bridesmaid dresses?
Answer: This will depend upon your wedding budget. Usually the bride/bride’s father pays. However, if on a shoestring budget and you cannot afford to pay, perhaps just choose one bridesmaid and agree with her on the style of dress you would like her to wear. Make sure she is aware of the colour scheme of the bouquets.
What do I do if my bridesmaid fails to attend a fitting?
Answer: You will need to find out why. It is an honour to be asked to take on the role of a bridesmaid, so usually this does not occur. However, if you suspect that your bridesmaid is trying to sabotage your wedding, it may be that she should no longer be your bridesmaid.
What do I do if my bridesmaid pulls out at last minute?
Answer: There may be numerous legitimate reasons for this. However, if you suspect that it is an act of sabotage maintain your dignity and put it behind you. If you paid for the bridesmaids dress, write off the cost, but insist (if not in your possession) it is returned to you immediately, or instruct the dressmaker that it will no longer be required, so no further work is undertaken on it.
What do I do if my bridesmaids are of all different age groups?
Answer: Again, reference is made to the wedding of Princess Mary and Prince Frederick. For the older attendants, an adult styled dress was chosen, however, for the flower girls a younger style was selected, but in the same colour theme.
Do my bridesmaids have to wear the same shoes?
Answer: No. However, if your bridesmaids are wearing different outfits, the same shoes may unify your dress theme.
Can I insist upon the accessories and jewelry that my bridesmaids wear?
Answer: Yes, if you are paying for the accessories and jewelry that go with the bridesmaids dresses. However, there may be personal jewelry, which is always worn, e.g. signet/engagement/wedding rings, or watches, and will be worn at your wedding.
Finally, if you end up in a situation where you realize your bridesmaids can’t agree upon a decision, be prepared to make a decision and stick to it!